Process Analysis: Understanding and Recognizing Love

This was written for an assignment that simply asked us to write an essay/paper in the "Process Analysis" style. Rereading this as I type it in, I can't agree more with it.

In most cases, the brash, loud animals that stalk the face
of the planet do not perceive the realities of the world they live
in.  Many times, they speak evil.  Other times, tehse beasts listen
to the voice of the wind without ever paying attention.  
Information and knowledge drift by these living specters.  The
majority of the homosapien enigma understands no facts.  Sadly
enough, they know no truths.  They know not what pulses through
their morbid and mortal vessels of life.  They can, for the most
part, not decipher true feeling from taught instruction.  The
empty-hearted lonely creatures of the new age can never 
differentiate between fact and fiction.  They live in the day of
the facade.  However, there exists a select few, the five-percent
of the cast, who can truly feel.  These stalwart sentinels of 
sense stumble around the corners of the world, understanding that
they must instruct the rest of the populous in the ways of their
knowledge.  For not everyone in the world is born with the ability
to recognize lvoe and feleing.  NOt anymore, in this world which
grows colder by the day, chilling the bone and the bane of the 
heart that fades in more and more innocent-until-proven-born 
children each second.  Alas, there are still some true people, even
men, though tehy be more scarce, and it is they who are responsible
for the world's ability to recognize and understand love through 
the basic senses.  And, this author is amongst those people.

The most prominent feeling ingrained in the human psyche is
that of love.  If one can not experience and recognize love, he or she
can not feel anything.  This feeling is one of the most powerful,
immense, amazing wonders of the planet.  When misused, however, it
can bring pain.  The first step to understanding love is to see 
with the dark vision of the blind.  Love is not based upon material
or physical characteristics.  Love, in its undefined majesty, is
based upon a bond and a comfort shared between two people unmatched
by any other phsyical or metaphysical power.  Therefore, the body
is often mistaken for the token in the ring of love.  However, to
truly love, one must look beyond this figurative Medusa.  One must
engage in a flow of information and ideas.  A true lover must be
liberal and open in spirit and mind.  A true lover must be desire
to know facts about everything, and hypothesize about what
is not known.  This, discussion is important in the quest for love.
The two people must know each otehr, must feed off each other's 
intellect and ultimately cause each other to propose new theories
and new ideas.  They must be able to be very comfortable with each
other's minds.  A pitfall that most mindless and thoughtless people
fall into is to underestimate the minds of their partners.  Love
does not lie in people who do not explore the higher circles of the
mind and accept others for who they are and what they think.

The next step in understanding love is the energy factor.  
A person must experience a sense of energy in some form during
times spent with the other person.  While not every person feels
the same energy, it can not be overlooked.  Some people experience
a tingle, some who have more psychic minds will play
color-sequences or even complex imagery in their minds, and others
have an awareness.  No matter what, there can never be true love
without an exchange of such energy.  This energy is actually
transferred between the two individuals without their knowing.
Without energy, there is most likely a relationship of the name,
where the only point in the actual togetherness is for show.
Typically, this type of relationship is dominant.  In an energetic,
thoughtful relationship, there is no dominance other than the 
dominance of equality.

The third premise in the logical argument of love is the
ability to interpret the sense of touch.  Like sight attraction,
people hunt for comfort in a comfort-oriented world.  However, the
true lover must strive to achieve control of his or her touch
sense, and interpret the signals properly.  A lover must experience
comfort from touch.  comfort comes to different people in different
ways, be it cuddling on a cold winter night, or hugging on a warm
summer day.  The loving person also must differentiate between 
comfort and sexual pleasure.  While it is completely normal for
a sexual attraction to exist between those in love, and perhaps it
should always exist with time, the sexual touching is not the basis
for love.  Anyone can make one feel good in that way just as easy as
anyone can look good on a poster.  But, these do not bring 
true love.  In a comforting relationship, there is no love without
the little touch.

The fourth step in recognizing love is quite enigmatic.
However, with effort, everyone in the whole of the world can 
recognize this step as well.  The fourth step is to listen to the
music and sounds.  Words and tone of voice, as well as the melodies
created by the inner ear of the human brain, tell as much of a
story as the three previous steps.  The true lover is able to 
understand the sounds and let thim guide him or her.  Sounds of 
love are wonderful and varied.  The inner ear plays a favorite
melody from one's favorite song, or perhaps a victorious spark of
exciting noise.  Also, the sounds the other person makes tells the
tale of love.  The warm, caring tone of voice brings the sense of
importance and interest, while the responses to the lover's 
own emissions are equally as vibrant.  Often times, the words
themselves are not the basis for love.  Words can be hollow and 
empty as well as full and vibrant, depending on how the are
offered.  Never should a lover listen to the words and decide if
love exists just from the context of a sentence.  Instead, he or 
she should listen to what the voice is really saying to him or her,
and judge from that.  In a sonically euphonic relationship, there
are no hollow words.

The fifth and final step to understanding and recognizing
love is the use of the extra-sensory.  Indeed, we all possess
extra-sensory perception to some extent, and love is surely a time
to use it.  After all of the previous steps are weighed in, a lover
must turn to his or her inner self and search for the fire of love.
If there is indeed love, looking inside one's self will surely give
a positive affirmation of this fact.  Deep down, the love signals
are picked up by the heart itself, and can be read to the mind with
positive outlooks for the upcoming days.  In a relationship of true
love, the inser self harbors bright hope for the future.

There will always be questions and burning doubts
associated with love.  And still, there will be those who simply
can not feel or recognize true love, and will live a long life of
self-deception and disrespect.  However, there is always a 
way.  Everyone has the ability to be a true, honest, and feeling
human being.  Inside each person, there is a drive to be a fully
good person, not just in charity and false facades.  It just boils
down to finding hte recipe of learning if it is not inherent, and
putting forth the effort to be such a person.  Because, even with
love, everything worth being and hoping for takes some amount of
effort.


Professor's Comments:
Rick - I must agree with Jim [the proofreader], "another sparkling effort!" I hope you don't mind, but I made a copy of this to kepe for myself, as I am once again astounded by your creativity and the way you are able to take abstract concepts and put them so meaningfully (& wonderfully) into words. Your views are rare, not only for a man - but for a woman too. I bet there would be fewer domestic murders if more people thought this way too. Great job.

Grade: A+

October 28, 1993
© 1993 Rick Hadsall. All Rights Reserved.